Wow i was shocked when i was reading the article in the today newspaper on the way to work. Singapore men do something about it man ! We should be the person that is choosing but not them ! All i can say “Buck Up Men !!!” There are lots of work to be done !
His lack of confidence, according to a recent survey, is one of the top reasons for his being unsuccessful in love. Add to this a small social circle and long working hours — it’s no wonder Singapore men and women are not hitting it off. ng to lose if he is rejected.
Relationship expert Kloudiia Tay, in her 30s, reckons Singapore men have a lot more to prove. “Being Asians, they feel they need to be in the driver’s seat, but at the same time, they are afraid to lose face,” she said.
“For example, a guy once told me that if he saw an attractive girl, he wouldn’t dare strike up a conversation with her, but he would do so overseas as the culture encourages it, and he has nothing to lose if he is rejected.”
Some Singapore women, like marketing assistant Jemima Tsoi, 21, feel that men her age are “childish and immature”, which is why she would rather date those who are a little older.
According to Ms Tay, women who marry older men do so because of financial security, while those who wed much younger men do so for companionship. “These women tend to be in their 30s or 40s. They are confident, financially-secure and more decisive than younger women,” she said.
And when it comes to footing the bill on the first date, many Singaporeans still hold true to traditional ideas of courtship, with 70 per cent saying men should pick up the tab.
But more women (40 per cent) than men (16 per cent) preferred going Dutch. Quipped Ms Tsoi: “It could be that we don’t plan to go on a second date with the guy.”